Survivors of grief and loss are a unique type of people who in many cases silently walk among us. You cannot tell by looking at them, what they are thinking or feeling. Chances are you may think they are doing...
What is Different About Holidays?
What makes this holiday season different than last year? For some people it is the first time not having someone special around and for others it is the second year. There are those who have been living and missing someone...
Reframing the Loss Experience can Help: What’s in Your Back Pack?
After a loss occurs many individuals view the experience one way and from that perspective the individual creates the context of how the grieving process “should” be. The key word here is “should”. Who puts the emphasis on “SHOULD”?
Does the...
Triggers with Loss & More
Continuing from the prior blog post this month about “Families & Veterans: How Grief and Loss Continue after War” I have provided information about triggers associated with Veterans which share components with grief and loss in general.
The term “Trigger” is...
Families & Veterans: How Grief and Loss Continue After War
Recently I spoke with a family member who is affected by the traumatic experiences of an individual/veteran who was in the army and active in war. She shared numerous examples of how life is a series of losses for the...
Children dying; what do you say or do?
I am opening the door for discussion and thoughts on children dying from an illness or whatever reason.
Young children unable to talk can sense how others are reacting. Emotions carrying a heaviness of fear, anxiety and sadness are difficult for...
The Elephant in the Room
I have noticed the “ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM” on many occasions and to be honest, sometimes I have been afraid of that elephant. You might wonder what she is talking about. You know, that thought in your mind...
Do you AVOID someone who is dying?
“Oh, no” may be first thought that comes to mind when you realize someone is dying. The accompanying feeling of hollowness in the pit of your stomach may set the stage for subsequent decisions and choices made when asking the...
FRIENDSHIPS or ACQUAINTANCES
When I say “FRIENDSHIPS” what comes to mind? Do you have a close friend or two? Are some of your friends more acquaintances than true friends? When times get tough what friends are there for you? Now, add grief and...
Are YOU Living LIFE?
Recently, a friend disclosed how 4 recent losses had caused him to rethink how he lived his life and how he interacted with others, including the world around him. This brought me to thinking and became the catalyst for this...