I have had the privilege to meet and connect with people who have been inspired, to do things they never thought possible or dreamed of doing prior to a significant loss in their lives.

Perhaps, you know people who have inspired you by what they have accomplished, even though loss was a part of their journey.  Ordinary people who became authors, musicians, entrepreneurs, activists for a specific cause, volunteers and heroes to someone.  What makes them different from the rest of the crowd?  If this is you, what makes you different?

You might ask, “How can the “ordinary” person have joy and opportunity to live life differently?”  Perhaps, they do not listen to people who said “You can’t do that.”  They find something they want to do and do it.  In some cases, following the nudge in their heart that says, “I need to do this.”

For yourself to be inspired by someone; ask them how they did it.  That person may be more than happy to share their fears, concerns, dreams and successes with you.

One idea for each time you say a negative word to yourself, stop and say “cancel” and redirect your thoughts to something more productive.  Change the negative to a positive affirmation.  For example, “Nothing I do ever works out” can be shifted to “I AM SUCCESSFUL IN ALL I DO.”

Maybe the door must close before a new opportunity comes, but you are in a place of fear and will not close the door.  Belief, trust and faith are strong determinants to change; believe, trust and have faith in yourself.

Find a buddy who you can call when you are down and need to hear a voice of wisdom.

Take a CHANCE!!!

Have some FUN!!!

LAUGH at yourself or something!!!

When you make the decision to do something the world stands up and says, “I’ll help you,” but you must;

• be ready to take the opportunities that come your way.
• step into the fear even if you are scared to do so.
• accept an invitation even if you are too tired, you never know where this will lead.
• not put parameters on how the “help” comes, what you think you may be the best outcome may be different and something you never imagined.

Believe in YOU and the world will believe in YOU too!

 All my best,

Barbara Gillett Saunders

Grief Counsellor/Thanatologist